montrealpost

"30出头"  border line, depends on your personality.

7 B) L+ J6 j8 p9 YI'm tired, going to bed.  U gals CONTINUE . . . .  hope LZ can make a sensible CHOICE for herself.  Good night!
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5 M: t, S1 K+ `( p5 y- @1 X! Yp.s. LZ, whatever it will be, don't forget it's YOUR choice and be responsible for it yourself.

p.p.s.  I've heard something about women who had abortion . . .  something something . . . . feel bad about aborted baby . . .   Hope whoever know what I'm pondering share some info.

女人也好色

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montrealpost

Post by 女人也好色
男人呐,给不起爱为什么还要用暧昧来引诱人?

We don't know if the guy was married.  Anyway, it's irrelevant.  Can LZ handle being single mother is the question, no?

msandra

Post by montrealpost
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If I have decided to have a baby at 35, I would have told u WITHOUT A DOUBT: "my baby will have my surname, Mr. MP is only a sperm bank."  I was solid as a rock, dear!  (I'm glad I decided not to have any baby, I won't be a good mother.  :p )

5 y7 j% v. Z' l, f% L6 V. f8 |Haha that sounds good to me. Wont they ask the father's name? Can the column be blank in the birth certificate? But where to find a good sperm bank ? BTW how do you know that you cant be a good mother.  



Seriously, I believe it is a tough decision to make. if LZ is financially stable, mature enough to handle all consequences (friends especially family...) , independent, don't care about how people see you in the future, willing to provide education and take full responsibility, keep the baby! Also you will get benefit and support during your pregnancy and after labor. The government is very nice to single family. Anyway you will not be alone. However the development of the child by lacking love from father is another issue. Step father may be good but he may love his own child more. The biological father may also claim to have your child in the future......Just to name a few.

Since I am not an expert, I do not know much so it is better you seek consultations from professionals. Go to CLSC or find a nurse or social worker to talk. I am sure they will help.
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I can provide you some health infomation. You have 21 weeks  to consider, start calculating from the 1st day of your last period. Dont make a rush decision. If you decided to have abortion I can look up a clinic for you, or a nurse will give you information.  there is no cost with quebec medical card. After abortion you still have chances to have baby in the future.

take good care of yourself. During the time please be happy and enjoy life.  No matter what decision you make I will prond of you coz it is a VERY VERY HARD decision.

montrealpost

Post by msandra
  . . . . . Go to CLSC or find a nurse or social worker to talk. I am sure they will help. . . . .  

Thanks for chiming in, u have provided a lot of info. that can help LZ.  As for the "rest" . . . . . . . let's see if any single mother will share experience.    The 2 of us aren't any expert, not even mother. (I shouldn't have gotten into this topic, but it freaked me out to see 2 immediate replies in KEEPING BABY without any info. on LZ)

As for myself, u silly, if I had any baby, all my single friends will borrow it for fun, minimum 3 adopted fathers right away.  I didn't realize the possible problem of biological father claiming baby, then I would put 1 of my friend's name on then(is it really required  :confused: ).  However, everyone's situation is different.
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# j) V, G2 T2 [, nLZ, consider starting with CLSC.  Read msandra's reply again.  Take care and best of luck!!

summerlover

楼主问自己几个问题吧。
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1) 是否人格独立。 单亲妈妈要既当爸又当妈， 要一个人撑起孩子的那片天， 是孩子全部的依靠。 你注定必须比一般的女人坚强。
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1 }4 C4 {2 Y, \& a3 e% b2) 是否经济独立。 你可是一个人养孩子， 孩子从小到大的费用， 都要靠你一个人承担。
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kemywu

Hi, I am a single mother for so many years. It is not so easy for you to raise a kid alone. If you want to know something about single mother, you can email me at kemywu2003@hotmail.com

chelle

大家都漏了一点，那个Mr.就不该做点什么吗？
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CTY

I think according to the law here, the baby's biological father has to pay child-support as long as he has income and live in Canada. Social work and legal clinic at CLSC will give yoiu more information.
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It is a tough decision. Be strong and Take care!!

ronica

我没孩子前会鼓励你大胆往前走,现在我想说的是望你三思呀,不是经济问题,而是孩子太需要爸爸了,而你在带孩子过程中也太需要丈夫的支持了.